Mentors – The Driving Power Behind Club Growth

By Lee Holliday, DTM, PID


The secret to club growth lies in application of principles you may have heard time and again.

Theodore Roosevelt, twenty-sixth President of the United States, is quoted as saying: “People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

Zig Ziglar, a motivational teacher and trainer who traveled the world over, delivering his messages of humor, hope, and encouragement, said: “You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people what they want.”

Once a Toastmasters club is formed, the growth of that club can only be sustained when the individual needs of individual members are met. You accomplish that by investing your time, concern and energy in developing relationships with members. Relationships takes time.Trust and credibility must be built over a period of time. THAT is what you lead with.

When I started in Toastmasters, I met an experienced member who took an interest in me. His interest was not focused only on what my Toastmasters experience might be or become, but he cared about me as a person. His name is Bill May. Time after time, Bill invited me to lunch, to coffee, to his home, and on trips, and our friendship grew. Along the way, he answered my Toastmaster questions, gently guiding me to grow personally and in my leadership and communication skills. HE CARED ABOUT ME.

I never felt that Bill was forcing me into a preconceived notion of what or who he thought I should be. Instead, he was providing opportunities that I could apply and helping me understand the value of those opportunities. Bill saw a bigger picture of what Toastmasters could be for me and he took opportunities to help me develop my vision for that over time.

My relationship with Bill has become my personal model for what mentoring is. We hear and see so much information about the “need” for mentoring programs in our clubs. I don’t disagree with that. I challenge and encourage you to not wait for an official mentor program or mentor assignment. Begin your own path to being a mentor. Mentoring must become an organic aspect of our Toastmasters culture, not just an organized program. When a mentoring program grows out of the culture, it will flourish. If you try to force-feed and organize mentoring into the culture, it will flounder.

As you begin investing “one-on-one” genuine care and concern in individual club members, they will learn to emulate your mentoring example. Ultimately, they will do the same for other club members. The mentoring culture will be established. Only then a vibrant mentoring program will yield successful members who, in turn, make successful clubs.

Mentoring

By Carol DeLatte, DTM

Mentoring is an important component of Toastmasters. Studies have shown that Toastmasters with a mentor will stay with the program longer than those without a mentor. Every new Toastmaster should be assigned a mentor by the time they receive their New Member packet from Toastmasters International.

But, where do you begin, if you’ve never been a mentor before? Here is a primer to get you started:

·         Arrange for a meeting with the new Toastmaster. This could be over a cup of coffee or even in a conference room for those in corporate clubs. Plan on about 30 minutes for the introductory meeting. You (and/or your mentee) will need a CC manual and a CL manual.

·         Share a bit of your background with the mentee

• How you got started in Toastmasters
• What benefits it has had for you (less crutch words, increased confidence, etc.)
• What manual or goal you’re currently working on
• Share your enthusiasm for assisting them

·         See if the mentee has any goals in mind yet … it’s okay if they don’t …

·         Talk about the Ice Breaker speech. Break it down for them… it’s like doing 3 Table Topics in a row. They’ll share 3 things with the audience, usually something about themselves. Some ideas:

• Where did they grow up?
• What brought them to the Dallas, TX area (if they grew up elsewhere)
•  Family dynamics – the family they grew up with or the family they’ve created
• Favorite sport(s)
•  Hobbies/pastimes
• Their career
• Maybe even what they hope to glean from their Toastmasters journey

·         Explain that they only need to talk about each of the 3 topics for 1 ½–2 minutes each (much like responding as a Table Topics Speaker).

·        Speeches 2, 3, and 4 can be more in-depth speeches about the 3 topics they talked about in their Ice Breaker… still topics they are very familiar with, only now they will be able to talk more about it. Break each of these speeches into 3 topics each, and by the time they get past these 4 speeches, they will have almost half the CC manual done!

They may not be ready for the Ice Breaker just yet, and that’s okay. Pull out the CL manual and explain that by participating in the meetings, they will get credit for that, too. But keep encouraging them to get past that first speech!

The most important thing is that they know you will be there for them and believe in them and their potential. Sit next to them in meetings, and try to schedule regular meetings about once a month. Offer to listen to their speeches as they practice so they can be better prepared and more confident when delivering the speeches.

Mentoring really is a win-win relationship. Embrace it, and watch new Toastmasters blossom! It’s very rewarding.